Tips on How to Make Friends as an Adult

Let’s be real: making friends as an adult is… weird and hard. But it’s also totally possible—and actually kinda fun once you get going.

The trick?

You’ve gotta try.

Not just once. Give things time and effort.

I think it’s safe to say that most of us are dealing with our own stuff—but building community makes the rest of life feel a little easier.

Friendship isn’t fast food—it’s more like a slow roast. Show up, give it time, and let it simmer.

So… where do you even start?

Pick something you might actually enjoy—or at least something that doesn’t make you cringe. Here are some friendship-friendly places to start:

• Pottery class (get muddy, make pals)

• Group hike meetups (nature + people = win)

• Workout classes (bond over shared sweat)

• Religious group activities (good vibes, deeper convos)

• Karaoke nights (embrace the cringe!)

• Pokémon or D&D (nerd out together)

• Volunteering (do good, feel good, meet good people)

• Running group (or walk and “accidentally” run into people)

• Wine tasting classes (yes, that’s a thing—and yes, you should go)

• Join a local sports team (or be the overly enthusiastic water person)

• Book clubs (for people who love the written word)

• Board game cafés (less small talk, more laughter)

• Adult ed classes (learn a thing, meet a human, win-win)

Step One: Leave Your House

I know, shocking.But seriously—making friends means going out more often, even on those cozy weeknights when Netflix is seducing you. It might feel like a lot at first, but once you get into the rhythm? It’s energizing.

Step Two: Talk to People

Scary? Maybe.Worth it? Always.

You don’t need to deliver a TED Talk. Try something simple like:

• “Any fun plans coming up?”

• “Have you done this before?”

• “Where did you get that drink/snack/shirt?”

It might feel like lame small talk—but that’s the gateway to deeper stuff. Find common ground: pets, hobbies, awkward love for reality TV, whatever.

Then follow up with:

• “Are you coming back next time?”

• “Wanna go to this again together?”

Boom. You’ve planted a friendship seed.

A Few Truths:

• People aren’t perfect. They might overshare or wear toe shoes. That’s okay. You’re not marrying them. Don’t write people off so fast.

• Let it build. Friendship is a crockpot, not a microwave.

• Follow up. Your anxiety might whisper, “they secretly hate you.” They don’t. Text them. Invite them. Say hi.

Making friends as an adult is brave.It’s awkward.It’s so worth it.

So try the thing.

Say the thing.

Go to the thing.

Because connection? That’s what we’re all here for.

Want a low-pressure way to meet people in Hamilton? Check out Smiley Days events HERE!

All the positive vibes – Pinky